50 Loving Sentiments We Should All Say More Often

Source: http://www.thinkinghumanity.com/2014/08/50-loving-sentiments-we-should-all-say-more-often.html

All too often, we take the people we love the most for granted: our lovers, family members, friends, and even our children. We forget the enormous power of our words, as we carelessly lash out when under stress. We stick our noses in our laptops and smartphones, assuming our loved ones know what we are failing to verbalize, sometimes until the relationships are disconnected or damaged beyond repair.

Make a choice to consciously nurture your relationships with verbal communications of love. Be kind and sincere. Ask open-ended questions with an open heart. Listen empathically and non-defensively. Remember, there are no conditions, no strings, no expectations, and no manipulations. Simply, love to love.

Sprinkle your relationships with these loving sentiments and watch your relationships blossom:

1. I am here for you.

2. Thank you. Thanks for all you do for me and all the ways in which you add value to my life.

3. You are beautiful. What I find most beautiful about you, inside and out, is: _____.

4. How are you? Truthfully, fully and completely — how are you, really?

5. Tell me about your dreams.

6. Tell me about your fears.

7. Tell me about your beliefs about life, love, the world, etc.

8. I am thinking about you.

9. I appreciate you.

10. I care about your feelings.

11. You are important to me.

12. I made a mistake and I’m sorry. I sincerely apologize. Please forgive me.

13. I value our relationship.

14. I am grateful and fortunate to have you in my life.

15. What can I do to support you?

16. How are you feeling about our relationship?

17. How are you feeling about me?

18. The qualities I love about you most are: _____.

19. I notice and really appreciate your efforts and growth in these areas: _____.

20. What’s most meaningful to me about our connection is: ______.

21. Great job! Nice work! Well done.

22. These are the ways in which you have touched my life and made me better: _____.

23. It’s an honor to know you and to be close to you.

24. I want the very best for you.

25. I cherish the following experiences we’ve shared: _______.

26. I trust you. I trust in our relationship.

27. I forgive you. I let go of my resentments.

28. These are all of the wonderful, positive qualities I see in you: _____.

29. Your greatest gifts and strengths are: _____.

30. I respect you.

31. I respect your decisions even though they’re different from mine or what I’ve recommended. You’re free to make your own choices.

32. I support you in any and every way that I can.

33. I believe in you.

34. I lovingly and trustingly give you the time and space you need.

35. You can achieve anything you want in life.

36. You are special. You are divinely and uniquely YOU.

37. You are free to be your authentic self in the context of our relationship.

38. I welcome you to be honest and truthful with me.

39. I desire to have/maintain an intimate and loving relationship with you.

40. You elicit the following positive emotions and feelings in me: _______.

41. You are not responsible for me, for my bad behaviors or my poor choices.

42. What would you like from me or from our relationship?

43. It’s not your fault. I don’t blame you.

44. I support you in taking care of yourself.

45. Your feelings are understandable and normal responses to everything you have been through.

46. I do not expect you to be perfect. I absolutely understand you are a human being and that none of us are perfect.

47. I acknowledge my areas of needed improvement including ABC, and am working on them by doing XYZ.

48. It’s important to me to know and understand you.

49. I come to you with an open heart and an open mind.

50. I love you fully, completely, and exactly as you are.

“The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.” – Thich Nhat Hanh 

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15 Things You Should Stop Putting Yourself Through

Source: http://themindunleashed.org/2015/03/15-things-you-should-stop-putting-yourself-through.html

By: Luminita D. Saviuc, Purpose Fairy, where this was originally featured.

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” ~ Thomas Jefferson

A lot of people put themselves through unnecessary pain because of the many unhealthy thoughts, beliefs and behaviors they have. They are so unconscious of their unconsciousness that they blame outside forces for how unhappy they are… They want the world to stop hurting them, when in fact they themselves are hurting themselves.

We are the center of our own personal universe. The thoughts we think, the words we speak, the beliefs we hold and the things we do, they all set the tone for how people, and life in general will treat us… If we want the world to stop treating us unkindly, we have to make sure that we ourselves stop doing the things that cause us pain and suffering. We have to make sure that we ourselves stop hurting ourselves.

Here are 15 things you should stop doing to yourself, things that will help clear out your mind, your heart, your body and your life of everything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy, allowing only good things to come your way.

1. Stop postponing your happiness for the future

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. And if you can’t be happy in this moment, right here, right now, chances are that you will never be happy. Always remember that “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special. And remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Saturday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again, to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.” ~ Unknown

2. Stop polluting yourself with negative thoughts

The quality of your life is in direct proportion with the quality of your thoughts.If you want your life to get better, to look better,  and to feel better, you have to stop intoxicating yourself with all kind of negative, self-defeating and toxic thoughts.

3. Stop arguing for your limitations

There are no limits to what we can be, do and have in life, expect the ones we choose to impose on ourselves. And those who continue to argue for their limitations, they will continue to create their life from a place of limitations. Because just like Richard Bach said it, “when you argue for your limitations, sure enough they’re yours.”

4. Stop telling yourself that you’re not ENOUGH

Have you heard the saying, “Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening”? Well, guess what. If you continue to tell yourself the same old sad stories about you not being good enough, smart enough, young enough, valuable enough, rich enough, and so on, you will continue to act upon these toxic beliefs and you will continue to attract people and experiences in your life that will prove to you that you are right. Because guess what? Life always gives you the experiences that you yourself think, and feel, worthy of receiving. Because that’s how much life loves you.

5. Stop hanging out with the wrong crowd

Jim Rohn once said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with, and from personal experience I can tell you that that’s true. If you surround yourself with all kind of negative and toxic people, people who loooove to complain about everything and everyone, and who expect the whole world to change so that they can finally be happy, then you will start to mirror their behavior. And without you even knowing it, you will start to believe the same things that they believe, and behave in the same way that they behave.

6. Stop waiting for life to begin

This moment is your life. And if you waste this moment by waiting for life to begin, then you will waste your whole life waiting. Failing to realize that while were waiting for life to begin, your life was already unfolding.

“Waiting is a state of mind. Basically, it means that you want the future; you don’t want the present. You don’t want what you’ve got, and you want what you haven’t got. With every kind of waiting, you unconsciously create inner conflict between your here and now, where you don’t want to be, and the projected future, where you want to be. This greatly reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present.” ~ The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

7. Stop complaining

If you don’t like something, change it. And if you can’t change it, change the way you look at it. Change your attitude, change your perception, but stop complaining. Because trust me, complaining won’t make things better, on the contrary, it will make them worse.

8. Stop comparing yourself to other people

Your job here on this Earth isn’t to be better than other people, but better than you used to be. Better today than you were yesterday. Your job is to be better than yourself, not better than other people.

Instead of looking to your left and to your right to see what other people are preoccupied with, and instead of wasting your precious time and energy to compare yourself, and your life, to everyone else, you might want to save that energy and channel it into something that will make you happy, and bring you peace of mind.

9. Stop dwelling on the past

Each day offers you a new chance to start all over. To leave the past behind you and start a new life. So learn to treasure this beautiful gift that life is offering you. Leave the dead bury their own dead, and move on with your life.

10. Stop seeking for love in all the wrong places

Why are you looking for love in all the wrong places when there is so much love hidden deep within you, eagerly waiting to be discovered? Find the love that lies within you. Become one with it, and then the whole world will shower you with love. Just like you always wanted.

11. Stop worrying

Leave your worries behind you, they serve you no good.

12. Stop being ungrateful

Those who are ungrateful for what they have, they will lose the gifts that were bestowed on them by life. And when those gifts will be taken away from them, then they will realize how much they had to be grateful for. There is so much to be grateful for in this world, so much to appreciate. And the more you get into the habit of expressing your gratitude for the life you are living, and for the many wonderful things that are present in your life, the more life will give you to be thankful for.

13. Stop trying so hard to make everyone like you

If you want people to like you, stop trying so hard. Yes, you heard me. Stop trying so hard. If you want the world to rave about you, and if you want people to like you, instead of chasing and begging for their love and approval, get busy living your life in a way that will make people curious about you and your life. Get busy with creating things that you are passionate about, things that make your heart sing with joy, and if you do this, not only will people love you, but you yourself will love yourself. And that my friend, will make you very happy.

14. Stop doubting yourself

Have faith in who you are. Know that there is a force in you that is more powerful than anything you have ever known. Stop doubting yourself, and learn to trust this force. Learn to trust yourself, your inner wisdom, your inner power, but also the wisdom of life. Know that none of us is here by accident, none of us is flawed. We all have unique gifts and talents that are needed in this world. Who we are matters. Who you are matters.

“Be humble for you are made of earth. Be noble for you are made of stars.” ~ Serbian Proverb

15. Stop taking your sense of worth from outside of you

“Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?” ~ Rumi

There are things in life that we do, and things that we are. That which we are, is eternal, and that which we have, is temporary. Never look outside of you for things, people and experiences to confirm your sense of value and your worth. Never get your sense of worth from outside of you, for that will only enslave you, putting at the mercy of things, people and experiences you have little or no control over.

P.S. I know there is a lot of stopping but I guess we all need to be reminded of how much we are damaging ourselves and our lives because of our thoughts, beliefs, actions and behaviors. And I guess that’s a lot more harmful than me using the stop word.

5 Reason Traveling Will Make You More Successful

Source: http://higherperspectives.com/traveling/

1. People who travel are able to thrive outside of their comfort zone.

This is a basic theme for people who travel a lot. When you leave your home, you leave your entire comfort zone. Once you’ve left that comfort zone, you learn to thrive in situations that you’d otherwise never be exposed to.

In your career, and really in your entire life, being open to big changes can transform your life and help lead you to much bigger things, but you have to know how to accept big changes and learn to thrive in them. Besides, your comfort zone expands and contracts with your bravery. Believe me, it might be scary at first, but your comfort zone will catch up.

2. People who travel learn to manage their emotions.

I’m no stranger to the occasional meltdown in the airport at 2:00AM, but learning to control your emotions, particularly negative ones, is crucial to being a successful traveler. Not only will you meld better with people you aren’t accustomed to, but you have a better time!

That kind of skill can be transferred to your place of work. You’re going to face down some major bumps and hurdles along the path to success, and knowing how to control your emotions will help improve your performance down that path.

3. People who travel manage their fear and get past it.

This ties in a lot to number one. There are scary things that can happen while you’re traveling, especially if you’re very far from home. You could lose your visa, get your wallet stolen, become lost in an unfamiliar city where no one speaks your language, and other scary trials may present themselves.

People who travel learn to face down those fears, get past them, and continue along whatever path they happen to be traveling. This attitude is useful along your path to success too. Changes can be scary, but face it and get past it. You’ll thank yourself later.

4. People who travel can see opportunities where others don’t.

So far we’ve talked about getting out of your comfort zone, controlling your emotions and getting past your fears. We’re starting to see a theme here, aren’t we? In addition to those excellent personality traits, people who travel learn to see opportunity and beauty where other people may not.

People who travel are able to spread their wings as wide as they can and take plunges, caution be damned. And that’s great for your path toward success. The more you see the opportunities around you, the further you can get.

5. Lastly, people who travel can understand the differences between people.

Mark Twain sums it up well: “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”

When you travel, you experience other people and other cultures. In every sense, it broadens your horizons and makes you more capable of accepting others for who they are. Bigotry and narrow-mindedness in the workplace can be a career-wrecker that prevents you from moving up and may eventually even cost you your job. Losing your job doesn’t do a thing to improve upon your successes, but rather, erases many of them.

How To Regain Your Lost Self Esteem

Source: http://www.thinkinghumanity.com/2015/03/how-to-regain-your-lost-self-esteem.html

Self-esteem describes how we see ourselves, but many outside influences shape it. It is time to take back control and realize your individual worth. Read 10 simple phrases that will help you gain or regain your self esteem:

1) Life is too short to waste it on worrying about what other people think of you.

2) Everyone is beautiful, just in their own way. So are you!

3) Unless you love yourself, no one will.

The moment you start loving and respecting yourself, you will notice how drastically your life can change. Your love is the best gift you can give yourself.

4) Never underestimate yourself because of failure. Failure is only a part of success.

Sometimes, we tend to give our negative thoughts too much room in our heads. This results in sadness, depression and other negative mood states. We are only human and we all have such times in our lives.

5) Don’t be jealous when others succeed. Your time will come too!

The people we usually admire have qualities that we respect and aim for. But many people connect comparison to jealousy and these don’t always go together. People who are constantly trying to improve compare themselves to successful people. People who are jealous can’t often see the whole picture.

6) You cannot be loved by everyone. But at least it’s good to know that people love you for who you really are.

7) Everyone deserves love.

When you are feeling sad, you might think that you don’t deserve anything or anyone. But the truth is, in times like that you deserve love and compassion more than ever.

8) No one is only made of flaws. Search and you’ll find really good points in you.

Being grateful for who you are and what you have will help and motivate you to go further on your lifetime journey. Accept where you are right now. Only then you will be able to decide where you want to go.

9) In addition, no one is perfect! So stop seeking perfection, you only lose your confidence.

Every person has his own strengths and weaknesses. This is what makes us human after all.

10) Try as much as you can to achieve your goals.

Don’t forget to remind yourself of your achievements more often to become motivated to do even better.

9 ACTIVITIES LINKED TO A LONGER LIFE

Source: http://thespiritscience.net/2014/09/30/9-activities-linked-to-a-longer-life/

UCLA biologists have found a gene that can slow the aging process in the entire body when activated in specific organ systems.  While working with fruit flies, these scientists activated a gene known as AMPK that is an important energy sensor in cells; which gets activated when cellular energy levels are getting low.

“AMP-activated protein kinase—an energy sensor that regulates all aspects of cell function. AMP-activated protein kinase (AMPK) is a sensor of energy status that maintains cellular energy homeostasis.” – D. Grahame Hardie

In the study scientists found that increasing the amount of AMPK in fruit flies’ intestines increased their lifespans by about 30 percent.  This puts them living around 8 weeks instead of the average 6 weeks.

This is like the average person who lives to be almost 80 to around 104 years.   What is also interesting is that not only do the fruit flies live longer but they were healthier as well.

Now imagine if we applied this genetic technique to someone who is already supposed to live to be over 100 years old?

If you found that interesting there are rumors that a man in China lived to be around 250 years old! Li Ching Yuen was an herbalist who practiced Qigong and said his secret to long life was to possess the following traits in your life:

  • Tranquil mind
  • Sit like a tortoise
  • Walk sprightly like a pigeon
  • Sleep like a dog

In addition to that list here are 9 Activities that are linked to a longer life!

1. Being Spiritual–  Having some sort of spiritual practice or belief has been linked to longer lives.  You don’t have to be a specific religion or even believe in God to qualify for this category.  Having a reverence for life and believing in something more than yourself is enough to enjoy the benefits of a longer life.

2. Health or Healing knowledge– As you heard in the video above both of our Supercentenarians were known for their knowledge and ability to heal others.  Perhaps the knowledge of healing isn’t only for ourselves.  Perhaps science will find a spark of longevity in those who take the time to ease the suffering of others.

3. Being Positive– Joy, laughter and having a good outlook at life is important for maintaining your youth.  Make sure you are laughing every day and finding ways to surround yourself with happy people and activities that make you smile.  If you plan on living a long time you might as well have a happy life.

4. Healthy Diet– Both of our Supercentenarians had unique diets.  Studies have shown that if you want to live longer you need to at least double the amount of fruits and veggies that you are eating each day.  Having an alkaline diet can restore the body and make it hard for diseases to take root!  (Click on this chart to see a great guide for healthy eating!)

5. Have Creative Hobbies– Having hobbies that keep you in touch with your imagination are important for maintaining the health of your mind.   Music, Art, Inventing, Learning, and Sports are all wonderful examples of things that we can keep doing even when we are older to keep expanding our minds.  No one wants to Die of Boredom.

6. Be Social– Woman appear to live longer than men because they generally have a more established social circle.  Having friends to share in experiences and memories can be the secret to not only living longer but having a reason to keep on living.  It has also been shownthat people who don’t marry or are not in a loving partnership are much more likely to die of heart disease.  WOW, its almost like dying of a broken heart when you think about it!

7. Stay Connected to Nature– Both of our examples above had a strong connection to and respect for nature.  Keeping our planet healthy is important to keeping ourselves healthy.  If we destroy our sources of fresh water, food and air how can we expect or even want to live a long life?  Walking around barefooted and having a direct connection to the earth has also been linked to a long and healthy life!

8. Be Active– Make sure you get up and move around after reading this article because research has shown that sitting for long bouts of time put people at risk for shorter lifespans and other health risks.  A study done in 2011 found that each time we sit for 1 hour and watch TV, after the age of 25, we deduct 22 minutes from our overall life expectancy!

9. Spend time with the Youth– Being with children, telling stories, playing and remembering what life was like when you were young helps you keep a youthful spirit and stay young.  Women who wait to have kids until they are in their 40s have actually been proven to live longer.  Children can teach us so much about being excited and happy in our lives.

There are many examples of people living longer, healthier lives.  Perhaps the biggest secret is starting while we are young to listen to the older more experienced people in our lives.  If nothing else it will help keep them younger longer.  Maybe they can also teach us how to enjoy life now and take better care of our bodies and minds.

Maybe its time to stop and smell the roses…

DO YOU WANT PEACE OR DRAMA?

“There is no one who does not want peace. Yet there is something else in you that wants the drama, wants the conflict. You may not be able to feel it at this moment. You may have to wait for a situation or even just a thought that triggers a reaction in you: someone accusing you of this or that, not acknowledging you, encroaching on your territory, questioning the way you do things, an argument about money….

Can you then feel the enormous surge of force moving through you, the fear, perhaps being masked by anger or hostility? Can you hear your own voice becoming harsh or shrill, or louder and a few octaves lower? Can you be aware of your mind racing to defend its position, justify, attack, blame?

In other words, can you awaken at that moment of unconsciousness?

Can you feel that there is something in you that is at war, something that feels threatened and wants to survive at all cost, that needs the drama in order to assert its identity as the victorious character within that theatrical production?

Can you feel there is something in you that would rather be right than at peace?

It is not easy at first to be there as the witnessing Presence, especially when the ego is in survival mode or some emotional pattern from the past has become activated, but once you have had a taste of it, you will grow in Presence power, and the ego will lose its grip on you. And so a power comes into your life that is far greater than the ego, greater than the mind.”

Eckhart Tolle