Everything you have experienced in your lifetime up to this moment has been created by your thoughts and beliefs from the past and what you are doing right now is laying the groundwork for tomorrow by what you think, believe and say right now. Your beliefs and thoughts from the past build perception. Interestingly, how you perceive the world is the real world and how you perceive yourself is the real you. So, to be who you are really want to be, you just perceive who you’re everyday you wake up in the morning and then that will become who you are. To build perception on something you first need to build up your thoughts and beliefs.
First, we need to understand how thoughts and beliefs are formed. Imagine that your thoughts are like drops of water. As you repeat thoughts over and over, you first notice a stain on the carpet, then there is a little puddle, then a pond and as these thoughts continue, the can become a lake and finally an ocean. What kind of ocean are you creating? Once that is polluted and toxic or one that invites you to enjoy its refreshing waters? This is how beliefs and thoughts are build up.
To change thoughts and beliefs is the most difficult part in human lifetime. This is due to the fact that your thoughts speed through your mind very quickly, so that it is difficult to shape them at first. So what can you do to change your thoughts? Your mouth, on the other hand is slower. So if you can start editing your speech by listening to what you say, and not letting negative things come out of your mouth, then you can begin to shape your thoughts and build your beliefs. This is the power in your spoken words. The way you talk or words come out from your month is basically program your thoughts and beliefs. So, to change your thoughts and beliefs start from your month first as simple as that.
Let’s go something more interesting on the perceptive reality topic. Perceptive reality is great topics that everyone is arguing around the world. Some said it cannot be proven by science. Why sometimes miracles do happen? Why a person having a cancer can recover 100%? Why a person having HIV also can recover 100%? Why some stuff in this world cannot be explained in science? Can all these answer be explained using the “Perceptive Reality”? So, if I perceive myself to be “Super Man”, can I really fly? If I perceive myself to be a rich person, will I become one? Can I use perceptive reality to kill someone by just imagine someone is going to die? How far the power of “Perceptive Reality” can go? Perhaps I have seen too many movies and now start talking crap to you? Well, I do believe the power of perceptive reality is unlimited. There is no reality in this worlds and the reality exists only because we perceive them.
By the way, if you have ever joined any Direct-Sale Marketing or Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) seminar, or Quick Rich Scheme Seminar, do you aware that they are also using some kind of “Perceptive Reality” method to help you to become rich? I wonder if I should start giving a seminar on how to become a “Super Man”? Just kidding…
This article is in fact kind of similar to the Law of Attraction. See the following 2 posts that I wrote about the law of attraction:
What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it. This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning. A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal.
To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about karmic laws.
1. THE GREAT LAW
– “As you sow, so shall you reap”. This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect”.
– Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us.
– If what we want is Happiness, Peace, Love, Friendship… Then we should BE Happy, Peaceful, Loving and a True Friend.
2. THE LAW OF CREATION
– Life doesn’t just HAPPEN, it requires our participation.
– We are one with the Universe, both inside and out. – Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
– BE yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have present in your Life.
3. THE LAW OF HUMILITY
– What you refuse to accept, will continue for you.
– If what we see is an enemy, or someone with a character trait that we find to be negative, then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.
4. THE LAW OF GROWTH
– “Wherever you go, there you are”.
– For us to GROW in Spirit, it is we who must change – and not the people, places or things around us.
– The only given we have in our lives is OURSELVES and that is the only factor we have control over.
– When we change who and what we are within our heart our life follows suit and changes too.
5. THE LAW OF RESPONSIBILITY
– Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me.
– We mirror what surrounds us – and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth.
– We must take responsibility what is in our life.
6. THE LAW OF CONNECTION
– Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected.
– Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.
– Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
– Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance,
– As they were both needed to accomplish the task.
– Past-Present-Future they are all connected…
7. THE LAW OF FOCUS
– You can not think of two things at the same time.
– When our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.
8. THE LAW OF GIVING AND HOSPITALITY
– If you believe something to be true,then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth.
– Here is where we put what we CLAIM that we have learned, into actual PRACTICE.
9. THE LAW OF HERE AND NOW
– Looking backward to examine what was, prevents us from being totally in the HERE AND NOW.
– Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, old dreams…
– Prevent us from having new ones.
10. THE LAW OF CHANGE
– History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.
11. THE LAW OF PATIENCE AND REWARD
– All Rewards require initial toil.
– Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.
– True joy follows doing what we’re suppose to be doing, and waiting for the reward to come in on its own time.
12. THE LAW OF SIGNIFICANCE AND INSPIRATION
– You get back from something whatever YOU have put into it.
– The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.
– Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole.
– Lack luster contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it.
– Loving contributions bring life to, and inspire, the Whole.
Ever notice how some people are stressed during transitions while others can just roll with the punches? It all comes down to emotional resilience. While some of it may be biological, there are ten traits that you can start cultivating today to start living life with less resistance and more ease:
Here are ten things that emotionally resilient people do when faced with a difficult situation:
1. Wait for what’s right instead of acting on what you want right now.
Yup, just like the classic Stanford marshmallow experiment, this is about impulse control — the ability to stop and consider whether you want to act on a desire. For example, when a family member makes you angry, your immediate response might be to lash out. However, impulse control allows you to pause and assess whether that’s really the best course of action in the long run. Delaying gratification and controlling our urges allows us to choose actions that align with our best intentions.
2. Sit with discomfort.
Similar to the above tip, those who are emotionally resilient are able to tolerate discomfort. Remember that thing you said out of anger? Or out of hunger? How would that response have been different if you had tolerated your discomfort for an hour? While tip one was about choosing the best action, this is about sitting with an emotion without taking any action.
3. Get some perspective.
If you’ve ever said to yourself, “Hindsight is 20/20″ then you recognize the possibility that it may be true for your current situation. Often, when we’re in the trenches, it’s hard to see the bigger picture. Sometimes things happen for you, not TO you. What seems painful now might actually be the gift you couldn’t give yourself.
4. Practice acceptance.
Acceptance is not the same as complacence. It’s not about giving up and letting the stress take over — it’s about experiencing your emotions and trusting that you’ll bounce back.
5. Remember the power of time.
The emotionally resilient remember that time heals all wounds. People who have a tendency to feel depressed often fear spiraling back into it, but feeling an emotion is not the same as getting caught in it. Think back to the last time you felt like this. You may have thought it was the end of the world, but you recovered. The same is true now.
6. Let go of having all the answers right now.
Often, when we try hard to find answers to challenging questions, we unknowingly put our blinders on. We are so consumed with having answers on our schedule that we forget that we only receive when we are ready. The emotionally resilient remember that it’s okay to not have it all figured out.
7. Engage in self-care.
Emotionally resilient people know that self-care is a non-negotiable. It’s a daily practice and commitment to self that strengthens their inner resolve. Ranging from exercise, to meditation, to a cup of tea, the resilient have go-to stress busters that don’t involve hitting the bottle.
8. Laugh it off.
Sometimes things just suck, and you simply need to laugh it off. Humor goes a long way.
9. Choose to be happy above being right.
Emotionally resilient people know that being right is not what will make them happy. Sure, it’s nice to be right, but it’s better to be happy. Ask yourself if picking a fight is really worth it. Are you fighting to resolve the situation, or fighting to win it? In any moment you can choose what’s more important to you: the relationship or your pride.
10. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, the resilient focus on what’s right.
Remember, where attention goes, energy flows. So why not cultivate more of what you want instead of what you don’t. There’s always something to be thankful for.
Ultimately, emotional resilience is all about attitude. By practicing these ten responses to stress, you’ll be able to spend more time living with ease and grace, spending more time in the light with fleeting moments of darkness!
Published on March 15, 2014 by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. in Fulfillment at Any Age
1. Wants to spend time with you. Wanting to invest time into your relationship is a key indicator of successful long-term intimacy.
2. Asks about your day. Couples build their love for each other not necessarily on the ethereal, but on the practical supports that keep communication routes open.
3. Trusts you. Partners who truly care about you will give you the benefit of the doubt.
4. Helps you when you need it.
5. Shows respect for your views. The key feature is not what your beliefs are, though, but how open you can be to accepting your partner’s perspective as valid.
6. Includes you in decisions.
7. Shows affection. Couples don’t have to engage in frequent sex, or even any sex at all, to be emotionally intimate. However, showing some sign of physical closeness suggests that your partner feels a vital connection to you.
8. Looks at you. The nonverbal cues that partners share with each other reveal their deeper feelings.
9. Likes to talk about the past. Couples who spend time reliving their enjoyable moments from the past, and do so in a positive and supportive way, can strengthen their ties in the present and future.
10. Is willing to go to bat for you and your relationship.
11. Makes you feel good about yourself. A partner who truly cares about you boosts your self-esteem and sense of identity. If nothing else, being with someone who makes you feel valued provides you with strong positive reinforcement. We want to be with people who make us feel good.
There’s no set number of these 11 that would indicate whether a specific partner hits above or below the threshold for truly loving you. However, with these signs as a guide, you can gain insight into your relationship’s strengths and weaknesses and from there, address the areas of weakness. At the same time, if you want your partner to feel truly loved, ask yourself honestly how you would rate on these 11 indicators. Perhaps it’s time for you not only to count the ways that you’re loved, but the ways that you show your love.
*Personally, these 11 signs are not only applied for romantic relationships but for any important relationships in our life, especially the family-relationships. We are so busy to live our life that sometimes we forget how to love our beloved people.